Leadership

Who You Know Matters

I was talking to a friend the other day and the first words out of his mouth were "man, I hate my job." What a way to start a conversation, right? My first thought was "then why are you still working there," but I didn't say that of course. We talked more and boiled his sentiments down to: 1) He feels stuck in his job and can't leave because he has bills to pay and no other source of income. And 2) at one point he thought about pursuing a business idea of his, but he always talked himself out of it.

I gave my two cents on the matter without coming off too prescriptive. He felt inspired to make various changes in his mindset and we eventually parted ways.

The point I want to touch on is that inspiration fades away. Once you are no longer in the presence of what inspired you and it's back to your normal surroundings; the feeling itself doesn't stay. It is the process of acting on that inspiration and being consistent that creates the habits that will turn things around for you. 

Who you know matters! Your immediate circle of influence is crucial to you being successful in whatever you do. Your circle can either keep that inspirational feeling high around you or tear you down mentally and emotionally. If you want to be successful at your job, then you should mix and mingle with some individuals who are already successful. Don't be afraid to step outside of what you're comfortable with in order to advance yourself.

If you're interested, I did a podcast episode on your circle of influence with a friend of mine and fellow entrepreneur, Maurice Smith. That's podcast episode #12. Give it a listen. It's about 30 minutes.

Anyway, if I had to give you three challenges on this topic, the first would be to identify someone successful in a field that you want to be in and reach out to them. You don't have to ask for anything specific. Matter of fact, you don't have to ask for anything at all. You could just tell them how much you like a piece of content of theirs or even how you admire something they do well. It's more so about making a connection and just building the foundation for a long-term professional relationship so try not to suck up too much. 

You want to broaden your horizons by meeting new and successful people. The most important person, however, that you can get to know is yourself.

Change truly comes from within. So my second challenge to you would be to just take at least 10 minutes, uninterrupted, to reflect on two questions: 1) what does success look like to me? and 2) am I on the path to building my dreams?

The third, and last, challenge that I would give you is to simply look at the people you spend the most time with. Do you have people that motivate you? Do you have people to give you honest feedback on your ideas? Or do you have individuals who only tear you down mentally and emotionally? People that tell you that your dreams are too big and out of your reach? I cover this topic in episode 13 of the podcast so check that out if you want to hear more. 

I did a whole section on this in my new book "The Missing Mindset: A Complete Guide to Developing A Successful Mindset in Life and Entrepreneurship." Head over to Amazon and grab a copy right now and read more about this topic and others. It's truly a book that everyone can benefit from because on a broad level it really goes into talking about achieving goals and overcoming things like the subconscious mind that hold you back or sabotage your progress unknowingly.